For the past number of years in life, I have watched a few of my loved ones go through relationships that have been healthy, some not so healthy, and some somewhere in between.
At the end of the day, what have these relationships changed in my life?
Not a whole lot. Some have created some good times, and some have created periods of worry and distress. Either way, none of these relationships that I have seen have had a direct impact on my life for an extended period of time. Maybe this sounds harsh, but it is true. At the end of the day it is not about ME. Instead it is about THEM. We are all autonomous adults who are capable of making our own decisions. Just as I am capable of making my own decisions, others are too.
As long as the ones that I love are happy living the life that they consider to be fulfilling, then my opinion ultimately does not matter. I will say this again, but if the ones I love are happy and confident in the decisions they make, then my opinion remains as just that. If they're happy, then I am too.
Over the past number of years however, I have personally experienced criticism for some decisions that I have made. I have also seen some of my friends and family deal with criticism from the ones that supposedly love them for some of their decisions with regards to relationships.
Some criticism, granted. But I think a lot of people are missing the fact that it is really not their business. I have listened to others whine and complain about the relationships of others, but why? Is this relationship really worth it? Why are you bitching? If you're using the "but, I just hate seeing him/her do that to their life!" Stop. It is their life. They are capable to making their own choices and decisions. This is how we learn and evolve into the people that we are meant to be.
So the next time you catch yourself bitching and moaning about someone else's life ask yourself why? It is really your business?
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